Word for the week: Honesty
Tori is twelve years old, she talks rightly and acts rightly. On a certain day she witnesses a theft in her school and is not sure if to tell the authority or not .When she is asked, she feigns ignorance and claims that she does not know anything about it because she feels that is the safest thing to do. Full of guilt, Tori knows she has not been honest.
Honesty refers to a facet of moral character and connotes positive and virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness, straightforwardness, including straightforwardness of conduct, along with the absence of lying, cheating, theft, etc. Honesty also involves being trustworthy, loyal, fair, and sincere.
Honesty applies in the following areas:
- What we say
When Tori was asked, she denied knowing anything about the theft…
Honesty is speaking the truth. Saying things that aren’t true, or that you think might not be true, or that you are making up to hide the truth are all types of lies. Lying is not honest (also called being dishonest) because you are saying something that isn’t true.
Examples of what speaking the honest truth means:
It means you don’t say things about people that aren’t true. You are not being honest if you make up rumors about someone or if you share rumors someone else made up.Being honest means you admit to your actions, even if you’ll get in trouble. You are not being honest if you deny you did something wrong when you really did it. Honesty means you explain how a situation really happened. You are not being honest if you say something happened one way when it really happened another way.
- How we act
Tori would have reported to the authorities but chose not to save herself …
When you do something you know is morally wrong, or when you have to hide your actions because you know they are wrong, you are not being honest. Being honest means you act in a way that you know is the right thing to do.
This part of the definition of honesty includes not hiding the truth (deceiving), not breaking rules to gain an advantage (cheating), and not taking something that isn’t yours (stealing) and any other action that you would hide because it is against what you consider morally right.
- Being honest to ourselves
Tori knew deep down that what she did was wrong…
A big part of honesty is what you say and how you act toward others. But another part of the definition of honesty is whether you treat yourself the same way. Being honest with yourself means you really know why you are acting in a certain way or whether what you tell yourself is true.
This part of the definition of honesty includes:
You are not being honest with yourself if you are trying to convince yourself you didn’t really do something wrong, or it wasn’t that bad, even though you really did it.