The greatest and most important adventure of our lives is discovering who we are. Yet, so many of us walk around either not really knowing or listening to an awful inner critic that gives us all the wrong ideas about ourselves. We mistakenly think of self-understanding as self-indulgence, and we carry on without asking the most important question we’ll ever ask: Who am I really? As Mary Oliver put it, “what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Everyone wants to know their inner calling, and I am not excempted too. We know that if we only know exactly what we want and where we can shine, we will do so much better in life.
Albert Einstein once said this:
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
Not everyone can be Bill Gates and not everyone can be Lionel Messi. Sometimes, you try hard and you work extremely hard, but if your destiny is not there, no matter how hard you try, it seems impossible to achieve the result you want. You have to understand yourself and know your strengths. If you are a fish and you enter into a competition to climb a tree, there is no way you will win.
And this is exactly what is happening to most people out there. They get into the wrong career and they believe it is what they really want, because they see that other people are doing extremely well in it . So they follow the crowd, rather than following their own path. They try hard in the beginning, but eventually, they find it too difficult to produce the amazing result they desire. In the end, they will throw in the towel and quit. They give up on their dreams and they give all kinds of excuses.
Below are the 7 simple steps that can help you to discover yourself:
1. Disconnect and Get Into Solitude
The first thing you need to do to discover yourself is to get away from this noisy world. You want to disconnect yourself from the world and get into solitude and stay in your world.
Albert Einstein discovered the theory of relativity while he immersed himself in his own world. He was in complete solitude. It is said that he was standing by a train track watching the train traveling passed him.
It was that time that he realized that to him the train was moving, but to the people on the train, he was the one that seemed to move.
The same goes for Isaac Newton who discovered the Law of Gravity. Well, according to studies, Sir Isaac Newton was sitting in his garden doing nothing and day dreaming. And suddenly he saw an apple fall to the ground.
And that made him think about the apple and the forces of nature. That was how he discovered the gravity.
Therefore, if you want to discover yourself, you must spend time in solitude and alone. Switch off your phone, take a walk in the park, sit in the garden like Isaac Newton, take a long thoughtful travel or practice meditation.
Whatever you do, you must be calm and get away from all the distractions around you. You want to be in a calm and peaceful state and not in a fearful or lonely state.
No matter who you are, you need to spend time alone from time to time. You want your mind to go wild and dream whatever possible. This is why meditation works, and research has proved that meditation can calm your mind, boost your creativity and relieve your pressure.
2. The Self-Discovery Questions
Whatsoever you do in life and every thought you have in your head is a result of the question you are asking yourself.
Every day when you wake up, you will start asking a ton of questions to yourself. “Should I wake up now”, “Can I sleep for another 10 minutes”, “What should I take for breakfast later”, “What should I do later”, etc.
Thus, if you ask the right question, your mind will search for the right answer.
What you need to do to discover yourself is to ask some self-discovery questions. Take out a piece of paper or your notebook and get ready for some writing.
You may want to spend 30 minutes to an hour here for this exercise. If you do not have the time now, you can come back to this later, but I can assure you that you will never come back and do this anymore.
Most people are good in procrastinating important things that will help them in life. Instead, they choose to do something that is more pleasurable which is not helpful to them.
So, I suggest you to do this right now if you are serious about discovering yourself.
3. Seek Inspiration
Another way to discover yourself is to constantly seek inspiration. The easiest way to do this is to read a book. When you read, you are training your mind to imagine in pictures. This is totally different than watching TV. When you watch TV, the sound and the image are already there.
So your mind will do nothing much but just follow through the movie and enjoy the show. However, when it comes to reading, your mind has to put the words into sentences and visualize the picture in your head. This will make you more creative and inspire you to think.
Furthermore, when you read, you are reading the author’s thoughts. You are reading someone’s life and the experience he went through.
Imagine reading books from remarkable people like Einstein, Steve Jobs, Warren Buffett, Nelson Mandela, etc. You will get inspiration from them.
4. Discover New Things
Do you know that you can learn more about yourself from discovering new things?
Traveling to a country that you have never been before or doing something that you have never done before will give you fresh insights and ideas that will spark your life.
This is why studies have shown that people who travel more are more decisive, they know what they want, they can handle the unexpected situation properly, more daring and have a better experience in life.
When you see new things, you widen your perspective, and you put in something new into your mind.
Imagine if you work in the same company, at the same position, living in the same place, and doing the same thing for 50 years, how do you feel?
This is why you need to discover new things from time to time. Visit a place you have never been before. Do something new like getting yourself a dog, visit the museum, go hitch-hiking, attend a business seminar, etc.
You want to inject yourself with freshness and possibilities constantly.
When you are feeling lost and have no idea what you want to do with your life, do something different and new. Try out new things and be open.
5. Communicate with Positive Minds
Connecting yourself with other successful people is another way of discovering yourself.
So when you network and communicate with people who have a clear vision and know exactly what they want in life, their thinking will influence you, and they can show you the way to finding yourself. You will become who you mix with most of the time.
Therefore, if you want to be successful and chase your dreams, network with those who have dreams and who are successful. Let their positive thinking charge you and guide you.
When you mix with people who are doing much better than you, you will be introduced to the greater possibility of what you can accomplish. It is like what I have mentioned above; you need to discover new things to widen your perspective. And when you mingle with other successful people, their remarkable results will inspire you and give you directions of what you need to do to aim higher in life.